In life, many times we encounter difficult problems and problems that we do not know how to solve. Even if you think all night and all morning, you still cannot escape the vicious cycle of thinking that is gradually draining your energy. Or, sometimes we have found a way, a solution to our problem, but we are not brave enough to take the first step to change ourselves, change our lives, careers, relationships. self.
At times like these, your own energy alone is not enough to be able to break out of the old loop, to make a big change in your own life, career, and relationships. There’s an external motivation to put in a little extra impetus for yourself to start changing. Albert Einstein once said, “We cannot solve a problem with the head that created it”. Therefore, sometimes, on our journey, we need a companion to help us overcome difficulties.
In our life journey, we are always accompanied by many people, all of whom can be called companions in some way. They can act as a friend, a relative, a teacher, an experienced forerunner or sometimes themselves…. But a companion can guide you to create If you want to make big changes in your life, create new and positive things, you need to have the following factors.
First, they are the people we trust. People share the need that one can completely trust to speak out all the thoughts and feelings contained within without fear of being criticized, judged or harmed. When there is trust between the two, it creates a strong connection so that you can articulate your problems without any blind spots or denials. It is only then that outsiders who see the problem can show us the things that we are lacking, the things that we still do out of habit that lead to changes. Moreover, the trust between you and that person also helps you avoid your analytical and judgmental thoughts on the advice that person gives. Then you open yourself completely to new thoughts, perspectives, and new ways that you have never known before.
Second, they don’t get carried away by your emotions. When listening, that person is not carried away by your own feelings, but can instead maintain a balanced attitude to see the problem in the most objective and honest way. People often make wrong decisions when influenced by emotions. When you and the person you share it with, getting caught up in your own or that person’s feelings, the result is a direction that will keep you stuck in a new cycle of trouble. The problem is that you can’t see the exit because most of it is because of being dominated by emotions, the opposite person must be someone who is not carried away by emotions to be able to pull you up, stand on the problem to find a way out. for myself.
Third, they do not rush to give advice when it is not absolutely necessary. The development of each person will be most complete when he himself can recognize and change himself. Therefore, the other person is just acting as someone who sees the problem in a different way, asking questions from their point of view so that you can see your own limitations. Thanks to those questions, you yourself are “enlightened” and find your own answers. That’s what makes you grow.
Fourth, they can act as emotional support to keep you motivated to make the change. When faced with a problem, sometimes you are the one who sees the solution but hesitates to do it just because there is too much fear in the way when you have to change.
You are worried, afraid of the bad consequences that might happen. All those fears and worries exist only in your mind. Therefore, having a steady companion to share, cheer and motivate you to overcome difficulties and challenges in the first steps of change will help you be brave. to create for yourself a new path, a new change in your own life.
Humans are a species that depends on society, no one can live alone without having anything to do with other individuals. Therefore, focusing on building quality relationships to have people to accompany and share life is essential for building your own life and career. However, sometimes, we have not had the luck to meet a soulmate, another person who is willing to be there to share, encourage and trust, instead of worrying, let’s learn to make friends with yourself.
Trust yourself to be able to see all the emotions you have inside; listen to yourself without reproach or judgment; question yourself to find a new direction; and cheering, encouraging yourself to have the courage to step forward. Either way, we’re always moving forward.
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